Soul Seeks Meaning in Pain

Pain is a universal experience shared by all living beings. A broken bone or a burn causes physical pain, which even animals feel. This instinctive reaction to pain is part of our shared biological makeup. However, Harold Kushner highlights a distinctly human ability: the capacity to view pain through the lens of meaning. Unlike animals, the human soul seeks to find purpose, especially in moments of suffering.

Kushner contrasts two intense forms of human pain: childbirth and passing a kidney stone. While no one would willingly endure the pain of a kidney stone, as it serves no purpose, a woman embraces the pain of childbirth because it holds profound meaning. This meaning transforms suffering into a source of joy, fulfillment, and new life.

Kushner reminds us, “Pain is the price we pay for being alive.” Dead bodies feel no pain. When we approach pain—whether physical or emotional—with a perspective of meaning-making, our focus shifts. Instead of asking:

“Why do we have to feel pain?”

We begin to ask:

“How can we make our pain meaningful, rather than just empty suffering?”

Though we may not always understand why pain occurs, we can choose how to respond. Pain can either embitter us or cultivate growth, compassion, and sensitivity. By discovering meaning in suffering, we can transform it into a pathway for healing, personal growth, and communion.

 

Notes

Kushner H. S. (1981). When bad things happen to good people (pp. 72-73). Anchor Books.