Loss is part of the human story. We lose possessions, jobs, relationships, and sometimes the people we love most. Any loss can be painful, but losing someone who has been part of your life for a long time can feel like the weight of the world pressing on your heart. You may wonder how life can have meaning without them. Everything can seem empty and joyless. You might withdraw from people and slip into isolation.
Grief is personal and shaped by each person’s culture, beliefs, and relationship to the one they’ve lost. There is no single “right” way to grieve. For some, being alone for a time can offer space to process. But staying apart from the care of family, friends, and community for too long can deepen loneliness instead of bringing healing.
Rabbi Harold Kushner offers a gentle reminder for such times: when grief knocks, open the door and let people in. Allow them to come into your home, share in your sorrow, and remind you that you are still alive and part of a living world. Nothing can replace the person you’ve lost, but that doesn’t mean they should be buried in silence. You can keep their memory alive by speaking about them, sharing their stories, and expressing what you miss most.
Opening your heart to those who come with genuine care can bring comfort, connection, and a sense of not being alone. Sharing your grief will not bring your loved one back, but it can honor their life and allow their spirit to remain present—woven into your story as you take each step forward.
Grief knocks alone, but healing enters with others.
Notes
Kushner H. S. (1981). When bad things happen to good people (p. 133). Anchor Books.