Prayer of the Whole Person

We often think of prayer as something we do mainly with words. We speak to God, recite familiar prayers, or sit silently. Yet prayer involves far more than the lips. It gathers the whole person—mind, body, emotions, attention, and desire—into the presence of God.

Neuroscientist Andrew Newberg studied experienced Franciscan nuns while they engaged in contemplative prayer through the inward repetition of a sacred phrase. Brain imaging showed changes in blood flow in areas involved in focused attention and language (Newberg et al., 2003). The study was small and preliminary, so it does not explain every experience of prayer. Still, it offers an important insight: prayer is not merely passive. The brain participates as we concentrate, remember sacred words, and direct our attention toward God.

Centuries earlier, John Cassian taught something similar from spiritual experience. Drawing upon the wisdom of the Desert Fathers, he understood prayer as more than a brief religious exercise. Our whole way of living prepares us to pray. What fills our minds, shapes our habits, and moves our hearts eventually enters our prayer.

Prayer, then, is not an escape from our humanity. It is the offering of our humanity. We bring our distracted thoughts, tired bodies, fears, gratitude, longings, and love.

Thomas of Celano said of St. Francis of Assisi that he was “not so much praying as becoming totally prayer.” Prayer had moved beyond particular words and moments. It had shaped the person he was becoming.

This is the deeper invitation: not only to say prayers, but to let prayer transform how we think, speak, work, suffer, love, and live. God invites the whole person—until, little by little, our life itself becomes prayer.

 

Notes

Cassian, J. (1997). The conferences (B. Ramsey, Trans.). Paulist Press.

Newberg, A., Pourdehnad, M., Alavi, A., & d’Aquili, E. (2003). Cerebral blood flow during meditative prayer: Preliminary findings and methodological issues. Perceptual and Motor Skills, 97(2), 625–630. https://doi.org/10.2466/pms.2003.97.2.625

Thomas of Celano. (2000). The remembrance of the desire of a soul. In R. J. Armstrong, J. A. W. Hellmann, & W. J. Short (Eds.), Francis of Assisi: Early documents: Vol. 2. The founder (pp. 233–393). New City Press.

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Perfection Redefined: Holy, Not Flawless

What does it mean to be perfect?

Ronald Rolheiser contrasts two understandings of perfection. In the Greek ideal, perfection means having no faults, weaknesses, or deficiencies. A perfect person measures up to an ideal standard. In the Hebrew understanding, however, perfection means continuing to walk faithfully with God despite our flaws (Rolheiser, 2014).

This distinction matters because the desire to be flawless can become a heavy burden.

Psychologists Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett describe three forms of perfectionism. Self-oriented perfectionism demands flawlessness from oneself. Other-oriented perfectionism expects others to meet unrealistic standards. Socially prescribed perfectionism is the belief that others will value or accept us only when we are perfect (Hewitt & Flett, 1991).

These pressures can quietly enter our spiritual lives. We may believe that God will love us only when we stop struggling. We may judge others harshly because they fail to meet our expectations. Or we may hide our weaknesses, fearing that people will reject us if they see who we truly are.

But holiness is not the same as flawlessness.

Christian maturity is not the construction of a perfect image. It is the willingness to remain honest, open, and faithful before God. A holy person is not someone who never falls, but someone who keeps allowing grace to lift, correct, and transform them.

This does not excuse harmful behavior or remove our responsibility to grow. Instead, it gives growth a healthier foundation. We can face our failures without deciding that we ourselves are failures.

Perhaps perfection is not a spotless life. Perhaps it is a heart that stays open—to truth, mercy, correction, and love. God does not wait for us at the end of perfection. God walks with us through the unfinished journey.

To be holy is not to be flawless. It is to keep walking with God.

Notes

Hewitt, P. L., & Flett, G. L. (1991). Perfectionism in the self and social contexts: Conceptualization, assessment, and association with psychopathology. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 60(3), 456–470. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.60.3.456

Rolheiser, R. (2014). Sacred fire: A vision for a deeper human and Christian maturity. Image.

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I Shall Go to Him: Grieving With Hope

One of the most painful stories in the Bible is David grieving the death of his infant son. When the child became ill, David fasted, wept, and spent the night lying on the ground. He pleaded with God for the child’s life. But when the child died, David rose, washed himself, worshiped, and ate. His servants were confused. David then said, “I shall go to him, but he will not return to me” (2 Samuel 12:23).

This is not an easy story. It does not explain the mystery surrounding a child’s death or a loved one’s. It does not offer quick comfort or simple answers. But it does reveal something deeply human and spiritual: love does not end when death comes.

Psychologists Dennis Klass, Phyllis Silverman, and Steven Nickman speak of “continuing bonds” in grief. In earlier understandings, people often thought healing meant letting go and moving on. But grief research has shown that many people heal by finding a new way to remain connected with the one they have lost. The relationship changes, but love remains.

David’s words carry this quiet hope. He knows his child will not return to him in this life. Yet he also believes that the bond is not completely broken. “I shall go to him.” These words do not erase his sorrow, but they give his sorrow a direction.

For parents grieving a child, this can be a tender truth. You do not have to remove your child from your heart in order to heal. You do not have to “move on” as if love has ended. You can carry your child in prayer, memory, gratitude, tears, and hope.

Faith does not ask us to deny grief. It invites us to grieve with love. In God, no love is wasted, no tear is unseen, and no child is forgotten.

Death changes the relationship, but it does not destroy love.

Notes

Klass, D., Silverman, P. R., & Nickman, S. L. (Eds.). (1996). Continuing bonds: New understandings of grief. Taylor & Francis.