Relationships soothe, support, and stabilize you, particularly, when you face rough moments in life. Some relationships can turn out to be abusive and make you ride a rollercoaster of emotions. Volatility is a marker of an unhealthy, rollercoaster relationship.
Volatility is the tendency to change quickly and unpredictably, often in a violent and angry manner. Speaking on volatility in a relationship, Katie Hood says:
[Volatility is experienced] when someone has a really strong, unpredictable reaction that makes you feel scared, confused, or intimidated. A volatile person makes you feel like you need to walk on eggshells around them or they will have extreme reactions to small things. Your relationship with them might feel like a rollercoaster that contains extreme ups and downs. They may overreact to small things, have major mood swings, or lose control by getting violent, yelling, or threatening you.[1]
Have you experienced something akin to the above? If so, your relationship might be a victim of volatility. In such an unhealthy relationship, you experience frequent tearful, frustrated fights followed by emotional makeups, and recurrent breakups and makeups. You hear hurtful comments such as, “I will commit suicide, if you leave me”, or “I will starve until you call me”, or “You are worthless! I am not even sure why I am with you”. And then, they apologise and promise that “this will never happen again”. If you have already lived in such a relationship for long, you may consider it normal, this is an unfortunate syndrome in such a relationship. It can be hard to see how a seemingly normal relationship turns abusive. A volatile relationship is unhealthy, even dangerous.
Understanding your relationships is the first step to improving them. You cannot make every unhealthy relationship healthy; some relationships you need to leave behind. But you can do your part in making your relationships better through open communication, mutual respect, kindness, and patience.[2]
[1] One Love, 10 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
[2] Katie Hood, The Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Love
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