Words Can Deceive

     Language is a unique and powerful gift that human beings have. Language makes us different from other species that inhabit the earth. The numerous discoveries and inventions that human beings are proud of have been possible because we can communicate our thoughts to one another and build upon the ideas of those who have gone before us. 

     Language has a huge downside to it, too, that makes humans the most dangerous of all species. We can use our words to deceive and manipulate people. On the one hand, our words can be loving and promising, on the other, we can betray and hurt others maliciously. 

     Animals communicate exactly what they feel inside. For instance, by growling a dog signals that it will attack if you enter its territory and woofs if it wants to play with you or show you love. A dog would not woof and then bite you. If animals are ready to attack, then their barking or growling will indicate exactly that. 

     Unfortunately, humans have the capacity to use language to make others believe that they care and are doing their best to help, yet this may not be true. Contrary to what people show, they might plan to hurt you and create blocks in your success and growth. 

     Last year, I met a wise sanyasi at the foot of the Himalayas, who said, “A lot of individuals use words for their own benefits, to prove that they are right, and to deceive others. Those who are genuine and truly care do not need words to prove this and often they are silent.” Only a person who has no need to manipulate can be silent. 

     Understanding that humans have the capacity to use words to deceive and manipulate has two implications. The first is that we become conscious of our motive for what we say and why we say something to others and recognize any self-centeredness in our words. The second is that we discern people and see if their words do really get translated into caring actions. 

     Sitting in silence can help us to peel off the motive underneath our words and tallying others' deeds with their words can lead us closer to the truth. 

     Let our words be genuine and uplift the other, otherwise, silence is a perfectly good option.