In many modern cultures, especially those that consider themselves progressive, there’s a growing temptation to remain trapped in the illusion of eternal youth. Adulthood is now often idealized as staying perpetually a "boy" or "girl." As Ronald Rolheiser notes, society equates maturity with preserving a youthful look and spirit. The "eternal boy" embodies carefree freedom, avoiding deep commitments, while the "eternal girl" is idolized for her slim figure, resisting the natural changes of aging. This skewed notion of adulthood promotes a superficial self-image and hinders true personal growth.
Rolheiser challenges this narrative, urging us to view adulthood as an invitation to meaningful roles—becoming parents, grandparents, and elders who embrace the natural signs of aging like gray hair and extra body weight. It is about stepping into a life of responsibility, where we not only take care of our own needs but also contribute to the wider community, prioritizing deeper, more substantial values over superficial ones.
Our cultural fixation on youthfulness is driven by industries that profit from our insecurities: fashion, cosmetic enhancements, the film industry, and media influence. They perpetuate the illusion that eternal adolescence is both achievable and desirable. This has led many to cling to a state of adolescence well into their later years, avoiding the transition to mature adulthood. As a result, they miss the chance to grow beyond the fleeting beauty of youth and develop into wise, contributing members of society (Rolheiser).
Rolheiser powerfully states, “Mature adults carry the young and take on the responsibilities that sustain families, communities, and society.” True maturity means rejecting the trap of eternal youth and embracing the natural aging process with grace. Instead of resisting change, mature adults invest their energy in commitments and meaningful relationships. By letting go of the illusion of perpetual youth, they use their experience and wisdom to strengthen the community, becoming the essential pillars for future generations.
Notes,
Rolheiser, R. (2014). Sacred fire: A vision for a deeper human and Christian maturity. Image, pp. 42-43.
Dear Fr.John Baptist, Capuchin,
ReplyDeleteNice Article to read. It opens our eyes towards the path of Maturity & Responsibility. Thank u for helping us to understand the " eternal youthfulness " Trap.
- Fr.Rex, Capuchin.
24-02-2025.